Monday, January 16, 2017

#MondayMusings - Living in the Moments

Today we welcome Kristen Kehoe to the House - she's got some common sense tips for happier living!

Hello ladies of The REALLY Real Housewives and everyone else! Thank you for having me.

Before with worry
Yes, captain. I suffer from what I’m starting to understand as the mom illness, AKA I have to do it all, be it all, know it all, and I better be efficient while I’m at it.

What does this mean? Well, it means I like to worry about anything. Everything. All of it. Why? Please see above for the aforementioned illness.

Honestly? I want to know that what I’m doing is enough—for my family, myself, my career…I also like to make lists ;) I’m organized in my crazy.

But, lovely people, in my thirty-two young years (seriously, I adore my thirties), through the people around me, experiences I have had and those I’ve observed, I’ve learned that worry is not the key to a good life. Living is.

What’s that, you say? What is this thing called living, and who has time for it? Trust me, I hear you.

We all have bills to pay, work to stress over and complete, housework to contend with, a spouse to communicate with, maybe even spend alone time with, and children to feed, scold, praise, feed, cuddle, nurture, educate, love, etc. We all have those things, whatever they are, that we do every day to make sure we can keep our lives functioning. But living isn’t just about those necessary things that keep us going, however much they consume us; it includes stopping, looking around, and being in this moment (even if this moment includes going insane from cabin fever while the school dares to cancel for ice and snow again. Don’t they know we just had winter break? Another game of Candy Land or Connect Four or, sweet baby jeebus, BARBIES, will kill me).

For me, living in these moments means turning my phone onto airplane mode, or Do Not Disturb, and resisting the urge to check my steps for the day, or my book rankings, or sales dashboard, or reading the latest blog post about finding more readers and greater success. It means resisting the urge to scroll through my Instagram feed and compare myself to every other crafting-DIY-CrossFit mom who has five times the number of children and projects as me, and ten percent less body-fat and wrinkles.

  • Living means putting on rain boots and taking my puppy and daughter for a walk, even when she’s whining and the dog is chewing on her leash trying to walk herself, and I’m half-crazy by the end of those two miles.
  • Living means accepting that my body is thirty-two, not seventeen, not twenty-five, and the marks and curves (fine, lumps) it bears are those of life, not just age.
  • And living means looking at myself in the mirror instead of the Instagram filter, and knowing that happiness is mine for the taking—if I’m willing—and it is not dependent on flawless skin, great lashes, or smooth hair (read: everything I would have to purchase in order to have).

After letting go of worry
It’s not ground breaking, but if there is any advice that I might be qualified to give (and trust me, the jury is still out on that) it is that for a few moments a day, we have to stop, look away from the never-ending stack of “to-do” and “worry-about” and “status update,” and embrace the moment.

Kiss your cat, your kids, your dog, your partner, your spouse…heck, kiss your kindle and the book boyfriends that live in it and just live. We often look for happiness in those big moments—but life is made up of small moments, insignificant moments, that all paint that one chaotic and brilliant picture. So live today, right now, over your first or fifth cup of coffee. We can go back to worrying in just a minute.

Until next time.

Kristen Kehoe is a wife, mother to a four-year-old girl and four-month-old puppy, teacher, romance author, and captain of the crazy train. Nice to meet you ;-)

Friday, January 13, 2017

Sushi Bazooka - How It Works

I was SO excited when my co-workers told me about this new product called a SUSHI BAZOOKA. But, unless you like sushi, excuse me, I mean LOVE sushi, you probably don't care. But you should. Because sushi doesn't need to be made of fish. I use chicken or tuna in some of my recipes. The world is your oyster!! OOPS...that's a seafood.

Anyways, I got it "for the kids" (I really got it for me). And my lovely daughter was ever so kind to take a video of my tutorial. And not only that but she took it from the loving angle down below being the shorty she is. So if it "appears" I have a double chin - I do not. Sorry to disappoint!

And now here is my video we did after a few test runs with the mechanism on a Saturday night! Enjoy my usual sweatshirt/pants weekend wear :)

Sticky rice recipe is 1 serving of steamed rice (1cup rice/2 cups water). In a pot add 1/2 cup rice vinegar, 2 tbs sugar, 2 tsps. salt. Heat, mix, and then stir into rice. Takes a few seconds and instant stick fest!


Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Scheduling a Crisis


Wouldn't it be nice if Murphy would schedule his visits in advance? You know, like maybe he could send an itinerary in January to cover the whole year? Then we could (maybe) plan ahead? 

As my grandma always said- if I'd known you were coming I'd have baked a cake. A double chocolate one...and I'd eat the whole damn thing myself! 

But then, maybe it's best that we don't know. Knowing all the bad that's on the horizon would only rob us of the good times...and that much chocolate cake would surely lead to diabetes. 

So, I suppose we deal with it as it comes and always know we can phone a friend in the midst of the turmoil and they'll send us cake. 

*This is Elizabeth posting for Tammy because Murphy decided to visit her this morning and knock out her Internet. 🍰😘

Monday, January 9, 2017

How To Achieve Steps, NOT Goals

In the New Year, the norm is to think of goals you want to achieve, and then work on them through the year, and then be super-duper proud of yourself that you did ABC. But then reality smacks you in the face and you do said goal for maybe a quarter of the way and then realize WHO CARES anymore, and you go on to your old ways doing DEF.

BUT ... what if you COULD actually achieve something this year without any goof ups or fallbacks? It's possible!! And I'm going to show you how...

In order to actually achieve a goal, you have to achieve steps.. You can't just get there, you have to learn how to get there. So for this example, I'm going to use the old "I'm going to lose weight" cliché goal.

Here is the formula:

1st STEP:  Decide your end point. (ex: Lose weight...period.)
2nd STEP: Make a list of things to do to get that goal achieved. (ex: eat more greens, drink more water, go for walks, smaller portions, get a gym membership, etc)
3rd STEP: Pick one. (WHAT??? Only one???) Yes...only one. (ex. drink more water)
4th STEP: Jot down what you do now, and a good amount you would like to get to; the key is, is to not shoot high, shoot average (ex. 16oz now, would like it to be 64oz)
5th STEP: Make an attainable measure for this step. (ex. 64oz of water drunken every other day)
6th STEP: Track it (ex. happy faces on a calendar every time 64oz is drunken)

I'm going to let you in on a little secret, I do this kinda stuff at my work for 13 clients. The ones that actually take it serious are almost too successful and we have to come up with new steps to achieve or they exceed their number of days/times they need to complete the step.

Here are two more examples of setting steps based off the formula above:

1. Go to Hawaii (I wish!!!)
2. Look up prices, find hotel, save money, lose weight for bikini
3. look up prices
4. no prices written down - would like 6 different traveling packages to compare
5. each day will look up 2 traveling packages and get in-depth info
6. write down the details for the traveling packages on a spreadsheet to compare prices better

And once you complete that step...move on to another!! Such as saving the money.

3. save money
4. no money saved - according to package need $1000
5. will put aside 200 from each paycheck
6. tracking to be done by savings account ledger

Goals are easy to make, but it's all about how you get there, and if you can get there one step at a time, then you can complete a goal.Ok, now YOU give it a try!!

**Come back Wednesday where I have a video tutorial on the Sushi Bazooka!!**

Monday, January 2, 2017

Happy Wishes for 2017 from THE Housewives

2016 is finally over. There were ups and downs as in every year, but the last couple of months seemed to roll down a hill and never hit the bottom for us to climb back up!

Thankfully, a new year has connotations of a new beginning. And we at the House would like to share some joy and fond wishes with you all... Plus some fun memes you can take with you!

Ashley - feeling judged for her Crazy Cat Lady
Ugly Christmas Sweater by her bird Clio.

"I wish everyone books that whisk them away to magical worlds, moments that inspire and motivate them to change the world for the better, and the time to enjoy the happiness they build for themselves." - Ashley

Liz is in the corner in green - she's had to deal with a lot of crisis this season, but is persevering!

"My hope for 2017 is to appreciate the small things and to be mindful to count blessings." - Liz

Tammy's Happy New Year card!

"My good wishes are to do more in 2017 than I could in 2016. From my writing, to fitness, to kid activities to even putting my foot down more. Haha!" - Tammy

Tara in her wrapping station... busy little elf!

"May strength and wisdom be with you in 2017!"

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